Self-confessed ‘home-wrecker’ reveals how to SPOT A CHEATER – here are the red flags to look out for.

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A self-confessed ‘home-wrecker’ who loves being a mistress to married men has shared her top tips on how to spot a love rat this Christmas.

Amy Kupps, 32, from North Carolina, US, has come out ahead of the holidays to reveal the “red flags” to look out for in your other half.

Cheating is set to spike during the festive season, especially at drunken office parties, with a recent survey by AYRE Event Solutions showing 14% of Brits have kissed a colleague.

Amy, who has 83,800 Instagram followers (@amy.kupps93), considers herself an expert in the art of extra-marital affairs, having split from her adulterous ex-husband after he cheated on her.

Pictured: Amy Kupps

“No one ever wants to think their boyfriend or husband is cheating on them but there can be lots of subtle signs you would never normally notice,” Amy told Jam Press.

“Also, a woman’s intuition is the most powerful tool in your arsenal, if you suspect there is something going on, follow your gut.

“Chances are you’re right and he is up to something.”

Here are the biggest red flags and changes to look out for in your other half.


If your partner starts being nicer than usual, this could be a sign they are up to no good.

Amy said: “There are the obvious ways like being overly pleasant, especially if he’s not normally attentive.

“Something else is he starts buying you random gifts that he doesn’t normally do, like flowers or jewellery.

“For me that’s a huge red flag.”

If there’s a big package under the tree, this could also be a sign they are sharing their own with someone else.

Pictured: Amy Kupps


Are they listening with one ear when you talk? Do they keep forgetting to do important things that they’ve promised?

This could be a very bad sign.

Amy said: “One point that I think many people overlook is when their other halves become suddenly forgetful.

“It usually means their mind is elsewhere and you don’t have their full concentration.”


Beauty routines might change but if you notice that your partner showering more frequently or constantly carrying around a bottle of after shave or perfume, beware.

Amy said: “Is he showering more than usual? Slapping on the after shave and suddenly shaving his balls and crotch?

“For me that’s a big cause for concern.

“You have to ask yourself why they’re washing so much and if it’s to get rid of any unsavoury smells like a woman’s ‘scent’ or their perfume.”

Pictured: Amy Kupps


If your partner changes their look or starts putting more effort into their overall appearance and it’s different to what they used to do, there could be a reason.

This is an even bigger red flag if it’s specifically on weekdays and they’ve mentioned a new colleague has started.

Ask yourself, who are they dressing up for?

Amy said: “Ironed or fresh clothing, maybe they’ve started wearing new clothes or making more effort.

“These things sound obvious and sometimes it’s purely innocent but if he’s getting dressed up to go out when you’re not around then it’s time to wonder why.”


Are they guarding their phone closely? Suddenly grabbing it whenever they leave a room?

Amy said: “If your other half starts going everywhere with his phone, gets funny if you touch it and always leaves it face down, this is a big red flat that they’re cheating.

“Another thing to check is if they clear their browsing history after using a laptop, tablet or phone.

“What are they looking at that they don’t want you to see?”